Have you ever come to a point in life where you ‘cut’ off certain friends?
It’s come to my attention that, over the years I’ve distanced myself from a once close friend of mine. He asked about why I don’t make the effort to call, to keep in touch, to find out what’s going on. Is he not worth my effort to keep in contact? Has he become irrelevant?
For those of you that know me, I’m not the type to call out of the blue and ask how you are. But he expects this out any friendship worth keeping. We talked a good hour or so, and it literally ended with a “goodbye, old friend”. I mean, that was it.
As I sit here now, thinking about what was spoken the past hour, I wonder if I’ve changed for the better or worst.
Last year I was in a burnt-out rut, in debt and piss broke. He was kind of in the same situation and we talked a lot. As I tried to get of the rut, the conversations I had with him started to decline. He seemed to continue to harbor this emotional baggage, this feeling of wallow and defeat. He gave a feeling of neediness that I find very off putting. I’m a firm believer in “you become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”. And such a needy attitude was not something I wanted in my average.
To him, being needy and affectionate is who he is, and that I should accept that he is such, and if he’s worth keeping as a friend, I should put in more effort to meet his expectations. To me, what he’s expecting is a relationship, not friendship. My only advice to him was to show that you’re on your way to success, that you have a purpose, have goals, that you’re going somewhere, and people will gravitate towards you. I believe this to be true, through and through.
Another friend I know, mentioned that I should stop this ‘elitist attitude’ and just be a good friend for god’s sake. So here I am again, after typing this, wondering if I’ve changed for the better or worst.
My Friend, You are fine. Started to pick things up and moving towards a better future. Believe in what u learn. Everyone says different things cos they experience different things. Its u know what to keep and discard whats is not needed, add in your unique sets of skills and becomes yours =)
see why i dun like peoples
In MW2 we trust!
as time pass, goals of yours change. Subconsciously you are looking for or trying to maintain r/s w people who share the same goals or thinkings or even path of your life. that wat i feel.. oh such needy pple are turn off anyway
hehe. Think of who you would like to see at ur deathbed. That should be a goal too. Its kinda sad to be a successful person with no frenz, if you know what i mean. And in the meantime! Work hard! :D
MW2 is a hit miss thing. Sometimes it’s fun, sometimes it’s 200% annoying. xD
Elitist bullshit or what not. How can you influence the 5 other people you spend the most time with to bring them up to your expected standards?
MW2 is pek che with tubes.
That’s the whole point, you’re not suppose to influence them, it’s too hard to change people. You pick 5 that matches, the rest can /ignore. lol.
Yes i think that’s how it is. Just feel it’s a bit ‘ruthless’. Like, running a business. But that’s just how life is isn’t is. Ruthless. :D
i find this post and the comments kinda morbid :/ imho, i think it’s quite myopic to pick the 5 that YOU THINK match.. but aiya.. you only live once, why so anal?
It’s not that you have to pick just 5 people in your entire life to spend time with, it’s just you will probably become the average of that 5 people. Knowing this, one just has to spend time with the right people. I mean, you wouldn’t want to spend an entire day with someone that complains all day about anything and everything rights?
true true.. ok mj i choose you. 1/5 now
haha tom i am sure there are more than 1 Mj to chose from.
haha just go find ur best 5 :P
OMG I feel like Pokemon now.